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All my characteristics

November 6, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

From the book Practical Management of Personality Disorder by W. John Livesley (2003)(p.311-314)
I put in bold what I think I am.

Emotional dysregulation

Apprehensiveness: pervasive sense of anxiety and apprehensiveness; defines the world as anxiety provoking; worries about doing anything new or different.
Guilt: considers self as bad; almost always feel as if he or she has done something wrong; often feels guilty without knowing why.
Punishment: expects to be punished for mistakes; thinks he or she deserves to be punished.
Rumination: actively reviews previous mistakes and embarrassments in great detail; repeatedly relives embarrassing moments.
Inhibition: feels uncomfortable about doing anything new or different.

Affective lability
Dyscontrol: believes affects are uncontrollable and that he or she is unable to do anything to make self feel better.
Fear of affect: fear of affective experience; unable to tolerate emotions.
Exaggeration: reacts initially to all problems as if they were crises; usually thinks that problems are insoluble.

Cognitive dysregulation
Superstitious beliefs: superstitious, believes in telepathy, the supernatural, and related ideas.

Competence: doubts ability to cope effectively with people and situations; lacks confidence in abilities; considers self to be incompetent; feels unable to protect self; believes that he or she is helpless and needs continual support and help.
Approval dependence: satisfaction and self-esteem depend on the approval of others.
Conflict avoidance: believes that it is necessary to submit to the wants and wishes of others to avoid conflict.
Assertiveness guilt: feels guilty about asserting own interests and wants.

Anger intolerance: believes that he or she is unable to cope with the anger or disapproval of others; expects anger or disapproval to lead to rejection; feels guilty if someone is angry with him or her.
Retaliation: expects others to retaliate for any attempt at self-assertion.
Self-deprecation: devalues self, especially in relation to others; thinks self is not as important as others.
Martyrdom: values making sacrifices for others; always places others’ needs first.

Insecure attachment
Security: believes that security, well-being, and coping ability depends upon the physical presence of significant others; needs people to be available to offer support whenever required.
Abandonment: fears being left or abandoned; expects separations, rejections, or abandonment to be painful and catastrophic.
Availability and responsiveness: believes that people cannot be relied upon; fears that people will not be available, respond appropriately, or understand his or her needs and problems.
Aloneness: fears solitude; considers the physical presence of others to be essential for happiness.

Preservation of independence: goes to great lengths to preserve independence; sensitive to any encroachment on independence.
Passive–resistant: blocks others’ requests in a passive and indirect manner; does not believe that direct disagreement is desirable.
Unappreciated: believes that he or she is not sufficiently appreciated.
Resentment: resents receiving advice or instruction from anyone; perceives advice or instruction as an infringement of personal liberty.

Social apprehensiveness
Apprehensiveness: expects to feel anxious and uncomfortable in social situations.
Social worth: considers self to be worthless and uninteresting.
Probable negative evaluation: expects people to criticize, embarrass, or humiliate him or her.
Intolerance of negative evaluation: excessively fearful of negative social evaluation, leading to social withdrawal.

Dissocial behavior

Remorselessness: is not concerned about the effects of own actions on others; guiltless.
Egocentricism: believes that own needs are more important than others’ and that he or she should receive priority.
Exploitation: considers exploitativeness and manipulativeness to be valuable and acceptable ways to attain goals.
Sadism: enjoys the pain of others.
Contempt: has little regard for other people.
Irresponsibility: takes responsibilities lightly; does not think that responsibilities should have a limiting effect on actions.
Rules: believes that rules and laws should not be allowed to stand in the way of getting what he or she wants.

Judgmental: hypercritical of others.
Authoritarian attitudes: believes that people need to be told what to do and what is best for them, and that most people suffer from a lack of self-discipline.
Rigidity: has rigid beliefs that are difficult to change; holds categorical opinions on most things; considers it a sign of weakness to change his or her mind.
Dominance: believes that it is important to control and dominate others.

Stimulus seeking
Invulnerability: believes that risk taking is not likely to have harmful consequences; ignores or downplays possible harmful consequences of own actions; thinks bad things only happen to others.
Dependence on stimulation: considers everyday life to be dull and uninteresting; risk taking is necessary to add interest to life; stimulation is necessary for contentment and happiness.
Impulsive decisions: does things suddenly, on the spur of the moment; does not think things through before acting.

Recognition: places emphasis on being recognized as special and different from others.
Attention: needs attention; happiness and well-being depends on receiving attention.
Discounts disapproval: discounts or becomes angry at disapproval.
Gratification of others: believes that it is necessary to entertain and amuse people to gain their attention, approval, and admiration.
Specialness: considers self to be special, unique, and destined to be important.
Entitlement: believes that he or she is entitled to special treatment and should not be treated in the same way as other people; considers him- herself to be above the rules that apply to others.


Intimacy problems
Intrusion: fears intimacy; believes that relationships are intrusive.
Autonomy: expects intimate relationships to interfere excessively with independence.
Interpersonal disinterest: values social isolation; values the fact that he or she does not need other people; disinterested in people.
Alienation: feels alienated from others; defines self as different from other people.
Sexuality: fearful of sexual involvement.

Restricted expression
Expectations of harm: avoids expressing affect or revealing personal information lest others use it against him or her; does not think it safe to reveal personal information.
Self-reliance: believes that it is best not to rely on other people, because they may use the information to one’s disadvantage.

Embarrassment: embarrassed by own emotional expression.
Exposure: feels exposed when expressing feelings or revealing personal information.
Social reaction: believes that others do not like affective expressions.
Control: avoids emotional expression because feelings may become uncontrollable; fears loss of control.

Social avoidance
Isolation: prefers solitary pursuits.
Social ineptness: believes that he or she is socially inept.
Apprehensiveness: expects to feel anxious and uncomfortable in social situations.
Social worth: considers self to be worthless and uninteresting.Probable negative evaluation: expects people to criticize, embarrass, or humiliate him or her.
Intolerance of negative evaluation: excessively fearful of negative social evaluation, leading to social withdrawal.

Perfectionism: expects perfect performance at all times; rarely satisfied with own performance; feels like a total failure if he or she does not do something perfectly; horrified at the idea of making a mistake.
Criticism: fears the criticism of others if a mistake is made; expects condemnation; considers others to be intolerant; worries about being criticized.
Structure: believes that structure is necessary to cope effectively and that he or she needs order and rules to work effectively.
Order: values order and cleanliness.
Containment: seeks to contain and control situations; needs to have all aspects of life under control at all times; worries about things getting out of control.
Disapproval: disapproves of the lack of cleanliness, organization, and tidiness shown by other people.
Catastrophe: the failure of structure, order, and perfectionism associated with catastrophic expectations; beliefs that if things are not kept in tight control, the outcome will be a disaster.

Other traits

Threat: considers the world to be threatening and opposed to self.
Mistrust: mistrusts the motives and intentions of others.

Vigilance: believes that it is necessary to be watchful and on-guard at all times, otherwise one may be taken by surprise.

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